She spat over the telephone.
“U r immature”.
And tried furiously to substantiate her views by giving examples.
The incident re-ignited some of those long forgotten thoughts in me.
Another spark to my idle brain.
Some Old thoughts.
Time when the film Kaho Na Pyar Hain was running in theatres.
On hearing the story (I never saw the movie), I was wondering, whether the hero and heroine would have fallen into love if they hadn’t spend time together in that lonely island. This is the same stuff, which I had come across in some of those English “classics” which my sister used to read. Aggression giving way for Attraction, Lust and ultimately Love. I can tell you with cent percent surety that they never would have become lovers if they hadn’t spend those rainy stormy nights together in the island or say, if both were living there normal life in the city. But why?? What made the difference when they were in the lonely island??? Weren’t they mature enough to think of a way so they both can escape the situation, instead of falling in love??
I thought and this is what I came up with.
Character
An invisible blanket, which we wear over our true self.
Afraid of the consequences of breaking the rules imposed on us by the social, traditional and cultural aspects of life, we hide the animal inside us from others, by wearing this blanket. It’s so tightly integrated to us (just like the armor of Karna) that for others the only U visible is the U covered in the blanket. This is your personality, this is your character and this is U as the world sees, a fake U, for the society, for your loved ones, for yourself. The blanket exists only when u r inside the system, and once u r out, U can chose to have it or not. And this is precisely what happened with our hero and heroine. Once trapped in the isolated island, without hope for any escape, the blanket was dropped. Then attraction, lust, love….
Maturity.
Relates to ones reactions to those different stimuli from the society.
The society expects an individual to behave in a certain way under certain situations. If he behaves as per the society’s expectations, he is mature. Else he is not. This is subjective to place, time and age differences. A person behaving maturely in some situations may behave immaturely in some other situations. The case is highly fluctuating and there is nothing like absolute maturity or absolute immaturity. Suffice to say, “it depends”.
Now let me conclude.
What is character??
A blanket!! Fake!!But makes the society a nice place to live in.
Whats maturity??
The society’s tag to a person after evaluating his behavior under different situations.
Does maturity have a clear definition?
No!!! It fluctuates.
How is character and maturity related??
Flaws in character leads to immature behaviors in a matured person.
Signed Sreeram R.Warrier (Don’t kill me ;)
“U r immature”.
And tried furiously to substantiate her views by giving examples.
The incident re-ignited some of those long forgotten thoughts in me.
Another spark to my idle brain.
Some Old thoughts.
Time when the film Kaho Na Pyar Hain was running in theatres.
On hearing the story (I never saw the movie), I was wondering, whether the hero and heroine would have fallen into love if they hadn’t spend time together in that lonely island. This is the same stuff, which I had come across in some of those English “classics” which my sister used to read. Aggression giving way for Attraction, Lust and ultimately Love. I can tell you with cent percent surety that they never would have become lovers if they hadn’t spend those rainy stormy nights together in the island or say, if both were living there normal life in the city. But why?? What made the difference when they were in the lonely island??? Weren’t they mature enough to think of a way so they both can escape the situation, instead of falling in love??
I thought and this is what I came up with.
Character
An invisible blanket, which we wear over our true self.
Afraid of the consequences of breaking the rules imposed on us by the social, traditional and cultural aspects of life, we hide the animal inside us from others, by wearing this blanket. It’s so tightly integrated to us (just like the armor of Karna) that for others the only U visible is the U covered in the blanket. This is your personality, this is your character and this is U as the world sees, a fake U, for the society, for your loved ones, for yourself. The blanket exists only when u r inside the system, and once u r out, U can chose to have it or not. And this is precisely what happened with our hero and heroine. Once trapped in the isolated island, without hope for any escape, the blanket was dropped. Then attraction, lust, love….
Maturity.
Relates to ones reactions to those different stimuli from the society.
The society expects an individual to behave in a certain way under certain situations. If he behaves as per the society’s expectations, he is mature. Else he is not. This is subjective to place, time and age differences. A person behaving maturely in some situations may behave immaturely in some other situations. The case is highly fluctuating and there is nothing like absolute maturity or absolute immaturity. Suffice to say, “it depends”.
Now let me conclude.
What is character??
A blanket!! Fake!!But makes the society a nice place to live in.
Whats maturity??
The society’s tag to a person after evaluating his behavior under different situations.
Does maturity have a clear definition?
No!!! It fluctuates.
How is character and maturity related??
Flaws in character leads to immature behaviors in a matured person.
Signed Sreeram R.Warrier (Don’t kill me ;)
5 comments:
It’s so tightly integrated to us that for others the only U visible is the U within the blanket
You said that the blanket covers the real self, so how can anybody see it?
If he behaves as per the society’s expectations, he is mature
If a 7 yr old behaves like a normal 7 yr old just like the society expects him to, the society still calls him immature.
The case is highly fluctuating and there is nothing like absolute maturity or absolute immaturity.
Hence, that is the correct statement..
Regarding Kaho Naa Pyar Hai, couldnt it be because that they both got time to spend with each other alone and thats y they fell in love..?
I'll quote a situation from a malayalam movie, Harikrishnans. When the heroine and her friend, a guy, spends a night in a hotel room, everybody had only one conclusion as to what they were doing. Why? Because the society expects only one form of activity from a man and a woman inside a closed room. THAT is an act of immaturity from the society's side. But when it was found out that they were acting quite to the contrary of what we thought, we labelled them as mature.. I hope now u know what I mean by immaturity, though it can vary according to age and situation, like u said.
Thanx for ur views.Here are my answers to those.(Expecting more "raised eyebrows" ;)
Answers to,
1.The blanket is invisible as well as imaginary.It works like a "self modifier" or like a "tranquillizer to an eccentric". Unlike an ordinary blanket, "It covers the mind". It gives us the power to resist the temptations of "maya" or "matrix" (if u r a fan of the movie matrix ;)It blocks most of those "evil" products of the mind from reaching outside or modifies them in a way suitable to present, but allows the good ones to pass thru without any change.And a person's character is decided by those evil outputs which infact escaped the blanket. So if things are considered as it is, then I must say that the blanket makes U a fake one to ur real self.Because the world sees only those which escapes it or got modified while passing thru and not by those which were blocked or original.
The mind is pure.But the mind as we see is impure due to the effect of maya or the actions of "character" to counter "maya".
Take my case.I do have character.Its the result of my reactions to those good and bad thoughts that I have.This is also my individuality as it makes me different from U and the rest.
Now there are three cases.
1.If one lets all his evil escape outside, then although "he is true to his real self", he lacks character. [Eqlt to Rakshasa]
2.If there are no evil products and only good ones,he also is true to his real self, but he too lacks character,as there is no need for one. [Eqlt to Deva:(conditions apply,even they are sometimes vulnerable to the temptations of "maya"-individuality-May be thats y Hinduism has associated more than 33crore gods with us.)
3. Those who come in between.[Eqlt to us, Manushya].
One day humans may acquire the power to read the real self and then may be its "reality" everywhere ;)
Did u hear anyone saying "Welcome to the real world" ?? ;)
2. The child can be mature to his age.I think this says it all.The defintion of maturity is relaxed for him.
3.I must correct one thing which I had missed to point out in the blog.
Maturity relates to those expected
"positive" behaviours.
Take the case of terrorists.They do wat they do best.Spreading evil.I know it, U know it, everybody knows it.They r a curse to the soceity.R they mature?? No!!!!
So the soceity's tag can be applied only after evaluating a persons behaviours that are positive or harmless to the system. If anything is potentially harmful to the system, that is inherently evil or immature.
The man and woman were true to their real "good" self. But the soceity failed to understand them.Y?? Society is Us, humans!!! And once "we" understood their good self, we tagged them mature.
Hey vids,
U r supporting my views.
Thanx.
;)
Character...is an invisible blanket. Agreed. But if we become "Ourselves"...which according to us would be radical thing. But sometimes the society has some defined Norms, and even however rational a behavior be from any one (who is being himself),but if not withing the boundary of those Norms, the society labels it as being "Immaturity" or "being Rude" or gives us many more non-likeable epithets. Thus..sometimes Character and Maturity go hand in hand. And thats why if we are not being "Ourselves" can't we say that it is "Pretence" ?? Right..consider..If I say "I am sorry I can't chat with you now..m busy." Wouldn't you considere me rude or label me arrogant...its but natural. 'Coz we all have been brought up within the boundaries of those very norms that influence our thoughts and indeed behavior..So..now we both are still our inner character..but still who is mature and who is immature is an unanswerable question. Right. I guess circumstances coupled with our character and behavior influenced by our expectations, view of norms, and impromtu reactions can decide whether we are mature or immature. May be therez still no answer to it.
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